THREE STEPS TO BEING A FRIEND TO YOURSELF
How you look is important but how you feel about your look and your body is crucial to your overall well being and happiness.
Many women find it difficult to define themselves in a positive way. I find that most women can compile a long list of what they don’t like about their body but very few can compile a list of what they do like. We can be our own worst enemy and critic as we tend to focus on the negatives. It is time to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself as you would a good friend. A good friend is kind, accepting, supportive, encourages and praises.
Be a friend to yourself. Start now by following these 3 steps.
1.STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
The reality is that we are all unique and come in different sizes and shapes. Everybody deserves to feel good about themselves regardless of age, size or shape. What you see in the media in all it’s many forms is not real but images that have been altered digitally or by surgery.
You are individual, special and unique. Start appreciating yourself.
2. LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR INNER CRITIC IS SAYING AND CHANGE THOSE THOUGHTS
Think about what words or thoughts you use to describe yourself? Are these thoughts or words negative or positive? Being critical of yourself and using negative self talk can be damaging to your self worth, image and your day to day happiness . Did you know that what you might not like about yourself or see as a flaw others may look at differently. It’s time to turn off those negative thoughts and rephrase your self talk. Next time you say or think a negative thought about yourself tell it to be quiet. Ask yourself would I say this to a friend? If the answer is no don’t say it to your self. It’s time to start valuing, respecting and being a friend to the person that you are today.
3. LOOK AT YOURSELF AND GIVE YOURSELF A COMPLIMENT EVERYDAY.
Each day think of something positive to say to yourself.
Gift yourself with at least 1 compliment a day. Remember you have turned off the negative thoughts and images (yes we all have them) and it’s time to notice the positive aspects. Start anywhere – it might be your hair, eyes, fingers or smile. Ask a friend what they see as your positive aspects and believe them.
Remember it takes time to break old habits and create new or different patterns of thinking. Keep practising and take note of your thoughts and actions and how you feel.