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Tips for Shopping Online

Tips for Shopping Online




I much prefer to retail shop than online because I am a tactile shopper and do not like to buy without trying on. This post was inspired by my recent adventure looking at some clothing outlets on facebook. I felt inclined to investigate what they had on offer because the outfits were representative of my own style / clothing preferences – creative, unusual designs and construction. While looking at these sites and enjoying the clothing range a voice inside my head was saying – “Buyer beware – what you see may not be what you get.” The alarm bells were ringing because the clothing quality and style did not correspond to the low cost. After reading quite a few reviews my initial thoughts were realised. I have to say I was very disappointed because I had already visualised myself wearing many of these outfits.

Here are some helpful tips for making considered purchases online that can add value to what you already have in your wardrobe. No matter whether you shop retail or online a purchase you don’t wear is not adding any value to your life.


Your reasons for shopping can have a positive or negative impact on the outcome of your shopping journey. When you shop do you have an expectation that you will purchase something and feel disappointed and let down if you haven’t made a purchase.

ASK yourself these questions to lessen the chances of purchasing items that you will not wear:-

  • WHY am I going shopping online? (The following also applies to real life shopping.)

There are many reasons why we shop:-

  • Just stumbled across an interesting post on my feed.
  • I am filling in time.
  • Feel like I have nothing to wear.
  • Bored with my wardrobe.
  • Nothing fits me.
  • Want to see what is available.
  • To fill a gap in my wardrobe.

Knowing why you are shopping can set the direction and expectations of the outcome of this experience.  Not every shopping experience has to end in disappointment if you have not purchased something. I call this going on a shopping safari.

  • WHAT are you looking for?

Self knowledge and awareness is very important when shopping as it can lessen the impulse to buy for the sake of that shopping rush. You can gain more self knowledge by looking at the clothes that you already have and enjoy wearing. Take a look at the clothes you enjoy wearing and make you feel comfortable and confident.

Important information to know includes identifying:-

  • Clothing types that you prefer to wear- skirts, tops, pants, shorts, jeans, suits, dresses etc
  • Styles and silhouettes you find most flattering and comfortable.
  • Types of fabrics which feel right for you. Take a look at the fabric composition of clothing that feels just right for you.
  • Colours & patterns you like to wear and how you combine them.
  • Level of detail in your clothing – do you prefer simple, classic and uncluttered clothing or frills and more details.
  • Identify the brands that you most like wearing.

The above elements outline your style preferences and relate to your Personality Style. Identifying your preferred Personality Style gives you power when shopping as it becomes a road map to choosing clothes that work for you.


Ask these questions when you find something that appeals to you to help you make informed decisions.

  1. What attracted me to this item?
  2. Where can I wear this? / Does it fit with my lifestyle needs?
  3. How does this item fit with my personal clothing preferences?
  4. Do I have anything like this already?
  5. What detail does it have that will enhance or be less flattering on me?
  6. Why am I buying this?
  7. Will I return it if it isn’t right?


If you are buying a brand that you haven’t worn before or from a new outlet it is important to check the reviews.

Also remember to check the returns policy. Ask yourself whether you are likely to return it if it isn’t right.

Ask friends about their experiences.


Before you hit the BUY NOW button take some time out to consider why you are buying this and how it will add value to your wardrobe.


  • Shopping online is very one dimensional as we are just looking at an image on a body that more than likely bears no resemblance in body shape, body proportions and body variations to ourselves. Everything online looks appealing on the model.
  • Wearing clothing involves how we feel as well as how it fits. There is only one way to know if something is right for you and that is trying it on.
  • If you are not the type of person to return items then online shopping may not work for you unless you have already tried the item on in the shops. I am that type of person.
  • Online shopping does not allow us to touch, feel and examine for quality.
  • There are no standard guidelines for sizing across the clothing and fashion industry. This can make it very difficult to choose the correct size. Some sites will have body measurements for bust, waist, hips etc. This is not always helpful because we can have similar body measurements but our body shapes can be very different. Some body shapes are curvier whereas others are straighter. Clothes will fit and look very different even if body measurements are similar.

Being an empowered shopper involves having  the knowledge of how your clothing needs relate to your:-

  • Personality Style
  • Body Shape
  • Body Proportions
  • Body Variations
  • Lifestyle Needs.


Contact me  to discover how we can work together to take the frustrations out of shopping, creating outfits and a wardrobe that supports you every day.



What is STYLE?

What is Style?



Style is unique and personal. When referring to style in terms of dressing it is about how you combine your clothing so that it balances and harmonises with your personal and physical characteristics. Sometimes style and fashion are seen as the same thing. Here are some thoughts about fashion and style.

  • Style is not found in the shops. You find individual fashion items in the shops. If chosen wisely these can become tools for creating your own unique style and look.
  • You can only have style if you are young and have a great body. This is definitely a false statement. Every woman no matter their size, shape and age can be stylish.
  • Style isn’t something you are born with. Some woman may be more interested in clothing and have an innate ability to create stylish outfits just like some can create great meals without a recipe. Discovering your style can be learnt just like any other skill. There are ways to develop your knowledge and understanding of yourself to discover your Style Recipe or the Stepping Stones to Create Your Style.
  • Style is very individual and always evolving whereas fashion is forever changing and easily discarded and outdated. Following fashion usually results in having clothes in your wardrobe that were purchased on impulse and not worn.
  • Style is not about following a predetermined set of rules. It’s discovering the style guidelines that align with your personal and physical characteristics to create enhancing outfits for your lifestyle requirements.
  • Style does not come from having a wardrobe full of clothes, wearing the most expensive clothes or the latest fashion. It is about having the clothes that balance, harmonise and coordinate with you to create outfits that look and feel great.

Great style comes in many different forms and looks. Have you looked at someone and thought – “She looks great but I wouldn’t wear that.” The next time you notice a stylish look take notice of how the individual pieces have been put together to create a balanced and harmonious look that relates to the wearer. When I work in my clients’ wardrobes I have noticed a missing link. This missing link for my clients is  how to create outfits that truly represent who they are. It is not just about what you are wearing but how you are combining all your clothing items.

YOU are the most important element in discovering your style. The women that I work with discover their style & colour guidelines that create their unique style look. They then have the knowledge and confidence to dress and shop to ensure their wardrobe adds joy to their life by supporting their personal, social and professional story. They gain confidence and can step out each day with confidence and a smile.

“Never confuse fashion and style.

Fashion relies on attainable looks on women with unrealistic bodies.

STYLE is about utilizing the best aspects of YOU.”

Stacy London






How Can a Personal Stylist Help You?

How Can A Personal Stylist Help You?



I often get asked ‘What does a Personal Stylist do’? Many people are unaware of what a Personal Stylist actually does. They think a Personal Stylist is only for celebrities and just takes you shopping. This is definitely not the case.

A Personal Stylist can add much value and contribute positively to how you feel everyday. The reasons women seek out the assistance of a Personal Stylist include:-

  •  tired of spending money on clothing they do not wear,
  •  hate clothes shopping,
  • unsure what clothing suits them,
  • wear the same clothes on rotation and feel bored and frustrated,
  • have many clothes in the wardrobe but still can’t find anything to wear,
  • struggle to make outfits with the clothing in their wardrobe,
  • don’t know what is appropriate dress for certain situations,
  • have a wardrobe that is dated and not current,
  • not happy with the way they look,
  • tired of wasting money on clothes they don’t wear,
  • want assistance to declutter their wardrobe and discover what they have,
  • discover the colours that work best for them and always makes them look healthy and radiant,
  • have many clothes in their wardrobe that fit but when they put them on take them off again and don’t wear them,
  • feel the need to make a positive change with their visual image.

Working with a Personal Stylist  is not about:-

  • fashion and trends,
  • spending lots of money 
  • having a quick make over following rules and looking like everyone else or your favourite celebrity.
How Can a Personal Stylist help You?

Working with A Personal Stylist is about:-

  • understanding your uniqueness – the person behind the clothes
  • discovering how the clothes you wear can tell your individual story of who you are,
  • knowing how to dress your physical assets in an enhancing way to highlight your best features,
  • understanding the colours that harmonise with your complexion and how to use colour for dressing to create a focus and impact,
  • maximising the clothes you wear by being able to dress your outfits  up and down for the occasion,
  • creating a wardrobe of clothing that can easily be coordinated in a variety of ways to meet the needs of your lifestyle,
  • gaining greater body confidence and self acceptance,
  • having the knowledge and confidence to style an outfit in many ways for different purposes,
  • shopping with purpose because you know what’s in your wardrobe and know what you need to fill the gaps,
  • being able to get dressed each day with less frustration and wardrobe melt downs,
  • self care.                                                             
A Personal Stylist can give you

How to Transition Your Wardrobe for a New Season

How to Transition Your wardrobe for a New Season



For me change of season creates an opportunity to move forward with my style by putting new outfit combinations together. It excites me. Many of the clients I work with  find it difficult to transition their wardrobe for a new season. Having a wardrobe full of clothes does not make a working wardrobe.

Let’s look at the steps for making your wardrobe work for you in a new season.


The starting point for dressing for a new season is in your wardrobe not the shops. Let’s look at some steps for transitioning your wardrobe for a new season.

  • Organisation is important.
    An overcrowded wardrobe makes it difficult to ‘SEE and REACH’ items of clothing to create outfits. This leads to much frustration and despair every time you get dressed.
    Relocate all the clothing items that are not suitable for the present season in a different location. While you are doing this sort and cull items of clothing that no longer fits, needs repairing or doesn’t have a place in your life anymore. This also makes it easier when the time comes for the next season changeover.
    I keep my out of season clothing in laundry baskets on the top shelf of my wardrobe.
    Create a shopping list of any items that you need to replace and be on the lookout for when shopping.
    Last winter I created a shopping list to fill the gaps in my wardrobe. This list included navy tops, tunic and a long cardigan. Creating this list meant that when I went shopping I was on the lookout for these items. When winter arrived this year these items were already in my wardrobe and ready to be combined to make new outfits.
  • Ask What has changed in my life?
    Thinking about any changes in your lifestyle will help you when deciding to keep or cull clothing items. You may have lost weight, put on weight (happens to most of us), changed jobs, retired, rejoined the workforce, taken up a new activity. These changes can impact on your clothing / outfit requirements


It takes more than sorting and culling to transform your wardrobe. If you want to be able to get dressed without frustrations and melt downs you need to see the contents in your wardrobe as OUTFITS and not individual items.

  • Take the time to play and create outfits.
    You need to step out of your comfort zone and put aside some time to play dress ups to explore the outfit potential in your wardrobe.- Select one item (top or bottom) and make at least three different outfit combinations to suit your lifestyle needs Remember an outfit includes clothing, shoes, accessories and scarves. You may need to experiment with different combinations to create three outfits that you feel good in.- Take photos of the outfit combinations you like. Keep these somewhere handy (in your phone, on the back of the wardrobe door, in a look book) so you can refer to them for inspiration when getting dressed.
  • Ask What have I added to my wardrobe since this time last year?
    Look in your wardrobe at any items that can be transeasonal. These pieces are very versatile and with some thought can be adapted from season to season.
    In the act of creating outfits you are aiming to introduce new combinations of your clothing so that you do not become bored and think you have nothing to wear.
navy with green navy tight
These tights are at least two years old. I had very few navy clothing items in my wardrobe when I purchased them.

NEW PURCHASES this year included Vigoralla navy tunic, Sheridan long line cardigan and Wittner loafer shoes.

Outfit asymmetrical skirt & top
 This Motto skirt was purchased last year. Only had one top to wear with it.
NEW PURCHASES this year – Vigorolla navy asymmetrical top,  navy loafers, Tani tights.







What Will I Wear Christmas Day?

What Will I Wear Christmas Day?


Here are my style tips for dressing for Christmas Day.
  • Comfort is an important element to consider when planning your outfit. There is no point wearing an outfit that does not allow you to indulge in all the yummy foods on Christmas Day. Let’s face it, most of us spend all day indulging and grazing. Make sure your clothing allows for this.
  • Your outfit choice will need to take into consideration  how casual or formal your day will be.
  • The weather is also an important consideration. Here in Australia it is usually very hot.
  • Let’s face it, the lead up to Christmas Day can be very hectic and tiring. Look your best by wearing a colour near your face that harmonises with your complexion and ensures you look healthy, bright and vibrant even if you  are feeling worn out. If you are dressing in the Christmas Spirit by wearing green and red remember there are many greens and reds on the colour continuum that range from warm to cool.
  • Add some Christmas cheer with accessories.


What Colours are You Wearing?

What Colours are You Wearing?

Colour plays a major part in our life. We are surrounded by it and there are so many choices. Let me ask you 2 questions:-

1. What colours are you wearing?

2 Are you wearing colours that you like or that like you?

The colours that you may be attracted to may not not harmonise and compliment your personal colourings and therefore have the tendency to make you appear:-

  • washed out
  • tired,
  • unwell
  • not healthy

A colour consultation can determine your personal colour properties which include:-

  •  warm  or cool  undertones:- colours can be classified as being warm or cool. Whether a colour is classified as warm or cool depends on how it was created. This relates to how much yellow (warm) or blue (cool) is added to make the colour. All colours except for orange can have a warm or cool undertone.  The first step in colour draping determines whether the undertones of your skin, eyes & hair are warm or cool.
  • intensity:- colours can be pure and bright, dull, soft, muted or smoky looking depending on how much white, black, brown or grey is added to the pure colour.  Using the colour drapes discovers the colour palette which harmonies with your your skin, eyes and hair colourings. The palette which suits you best will make you appear brighter, fresh, glowing, more vibrant and younger. You can actually see the changes in how your face looks during the draping sessions.
  • value:- refers to the lightness or darkness of a colour on the grey scale ranging from dark to light. To determine the value of a colour you need to think of it on a black and white scale and where it sits. Albert Munsell determined this approach. Your hair colour  influences whether light, mid range or darker colours will be most flattering.

The Absolute Colour System used for draping by Individually You has nine colour swatches for both warm and cool colourings which ensures there is a colour swatch to suit your personal colourings. This makes such a difference when choosing what colours to wear.

Once your colour direction has been determined your colour swatch is personalised for you by:-

  • identifying your hair, eye and skin enhancing colours
  • demonstrating how to combine and wear your colours 
  • discovering your colour personality
  • showing you how your colour personality affects you colour and value contrast and how to combine colours in your outfits
  • how to use your colour swatch when shopping and dressing

Investing in a colour consult can:

  • ensure you always look and feel great because you are wearing colours that  enhance you
  •  save you  time, effort and money by creating your own colour coordinated wardrobe
  • take the stress out of getting dressed by having a colour coordinated mix and match wardrobe
  • give you confidence when shopping and dressing by using your colour swatch


How to Dress Up Jeans

Style Tips for Wearing Jeans


How to Dress Up Jeans

Jeans are a versatile item to have in your wardrobe for many reasons. There are many ways and reasons to wear jeans which include:-

  • come in a large variety of styles to suit all body shapes
  • can be styled for all personality types
  • are comfortable to wear especially with the introduction of stretch element
  • durable and have a long life span (just be aware that the style of jeans and how you are wearing them are not dating your look)
  • available in all prices ranges

Find Your Way to Wear, Enjoy and Dress up Jeans

What is there not to like about jeans. Let’s look at how you can style your jeans to suit your Style Personality and express who you are. What you put with your jeans is what makes a difference. Everyone expresses themselves through their clothing in different ways. It is through the choices of colours, patterns, prints, type of fabrics, silhouette created and choices of accessories that enables you to feel comfortable and look good in your outfit.  The different outfit combinations of these outfits pictured below show how the combination of different elements  outlined above create a unique look and feel.


Find a Way to Ensure Your Jeans Add Value and Versatility to Your Wardrobe


Jeans can be adapted to create different looks for various occasions and activities. They can be styled and worn for many different activities from extremely casual to smart casual. Quite often we can have a mind set that differentiates certain items of clothing in our wardrobes as being for play, casual, work, going out or best activities. This thinking is limiting the potential of your wardrobe becoming your day to day shopping boutique.


Jeans have the potential to be dressed up and dressed down for different lifestyle activities. Clothing has different levels of refinement and when you understand this you can style up or style down


The images below shows how this pair of jeans  can be styled for 3 very different occasions by choosing fabrics, styles, accessories that are from different levels of refinements:-

  1. Special Occasion Clothes  for formal, evening, business formal wear
  2. Every ay Clothes for work, going to lunch, dinner & many social activities 
  3. At Home, Sports, Gym, Hobbies Clothing
How to Dress Down _ Dress Up Your Jeans (2)

What are your tips for How to Dress Up Jeans?

Wardrobe Secret to Creating Outfits

Wardrobe Tip 3


Wardrobe Tip 3 by misskimpurple on Polyvore  

Your wardrobe is your personal day to day shopping boutique so let’s look at how you can organise it to have the potential to create many outfits. To create outfits you need to be able to easily see and locate the different clothing items such as shirt, pants/skirt, jacket you need. If your clothing is organised randomly in your wardrobe then you will always find it difficult and frustrating when getting dressed.

Follow these steps to organise your clothing and take the stress out of getting dressed.

  1. The most efficient way to order your clothes is to hang like items together, skirts with skirts, dresses with dresses, tops with tops etc. Yes this does mean separating suit items. Many people who wear suits don’t think to wear their jackets, pants, skirts with other clothing. Your jackets can become  very versatile  when it comes to mixing and matching.
  2. Now organise the clothing groups by colour. Sort them into similar colours so that you can easily choose items to create different combinations. This is a great way to take note of whether you have a wardrobe that can easily be colour coordinated or a mismatch of colours that don’t relate.
  3. Stand back and admire your organisation and start to see how your skirts, pants relate to your tops, jackets by trying on different combinations.

This really works and makes mixing and matching so much easier. I have found that I am really good at putting my clothing back in like with like but not always in colour groupings so every 4-6 weeks I need to reorganise into colour groupings.

Hope you have fun creating your own shopping boutique in your wardrobe.


How to Dress Fuller Upper Arms

How to Dress Fuller upper Arms


Some women feel more comfortable with their upper arms covered. If you have fuller arms or feel self conscious about them then here are some style tips that can enhance your look without adding bulk or drawing attention.
How to Dress Fuller Upper Arms
  • Avoid tighter fitting sleeves & straight sleeve hems. A straight hemline creates a horizontal line and can draw attention to an area by creating a widening effect. You do not want a horizontal line drawing attention to the widest part of your arms.
  • Styles such as batwing, butterfly, fluted or flutter  sleeves  have a more vertical sleeve line which is flattering. They are also not constricting in anyway.
  • Wear a sleeveless top with a lightweight kimino, shrug or cardigan over the top. Scarves can also be a great cover up without adding bulk.
  • Sheer sleeves can be worn under a sleeveless dress or top.
  • Wearing lightweight fabrics that breathe such as cotton, silk, bamboo will ensure you stay cooler.
  • Draw attention away from your arms by focussing attention on other areas of your body. Create a focal point elsewhere by wearing a necklace, earrings, brooch, belt or even coloured shoes.

The style & hemline of the sleeves you wear can make a difference to the look of your arms







How Do You Take Care of Yourself?

How do You Take Care of Yourself


My message today is TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. I want you to HIT YOUR PAUSE BUTTON do think about these two questions.
  • How you are feeling at this moment?
  • What words would you use to describe how you are feeling?

Did your words include – exhausted, run down, a wreck, fed up & crap? Are you wishing for somewhere to hide and be by yourself?

Quite often our attention is on things we have to do and we don’t check in with ourselves to keep track of our thoughts, feelings and well being.

This is my RE – STRATEGY for being more aware of myself, my life’s balance and how to take care of myself.


Take a minute to reflect about what you have been doing, thinking & feeling.

When you feel overwhelmed, somewhat tired and stressed you can disconnect from the people around you.


I strongly believe that our thoughts and beliefs strongly influence our actions and feelings so it is important  to listen to the voice inside you. When you do this you can be aware of whether you are  placing yourself in a negative or positive direction.

Life seems to flow much better when your head space is positive.


Give yourself permission & take some time out even if it is only 15 minutes.


How to take care of yourself

“To contribute to anyone else’s life you have to feel good about yourself first.
This lets you give more in a positive way without draining your own energy.”

Kim Williams – Individually YOU


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