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8 Lessons From My Wardrobe Part 1



The inspiration for this post has come from realising how my wardrobe is now supporting and enhancing my life.  This has not always been the case.  My wardrobe use to be overcrowded, frustrating and challenging. Every morning I dreaded opening the wardrobe doors to find something to wear. Getting dressed each morning usually ended up with many clothes scattered on the floor and me running late. The reality was that I didn’t really know what was in my wardrobe and found it difficult to find anything. If you can relate to this keep reading.

My wardrobe was not supporting me or working for me. Finding clothes to create an outfit felt like fighting my way through vines in a jungle. It was a painful and frustrating process every day. Something was missing.

What was missing had nothing to do with not having enough clothes. I realised it was my lack of self knowledge, self acceptance and self confidence that needed to be addressed. What followed on from this has been life changing. I decided to take the big step and study Personal Styling and Colour. Little did I realise the positive impact this would have on my personal and professional life.

Over the last five years my wardrobe has evolved and changed into a place I enjoy visiting each day. These are the lessons that have changed my wardrobe into my daily shopping boutique.



When I look into my wardrobe I see a cohesive collection of colours not a mismatch of colours. These colours relate to me in terms of my personal colouring and my Colour Personality preferences. They make me look and feel alive, vibrant and healthier even on a bad day.

My wardrobe is no longer a sea of black and mismatch of colour. My colour swatch has been like a magic wand.  It has enabled me to now have a range of neutrals and colours that cohesively work together. These colours easily mix and match which means I can create more outfits from what I have. I now have value, versatility and variety in my wardrobe.

My colour swatch has become my best friend.

Colour Swatch Absolute Colour System



Discovering my Personality Style and how this related to my preferred clothing elements was very empowering. It gave me greater self confidence and understanding of how I wanted my clothes to express who I am.  It made me realise what clothing styles, colours, patterns, fabrics, textures, shapes, accessories felt  ‘just right’ for me. The clothes in my wardrobe needed to not just fit but also feel right.

This strongly impacted on my approach to shopping, increased confidence and self acceptance. My eyes were more open to my preferences and this saved much time and money when shopping – (more on this in Lesson 7). I now enjoy wearing all that I buy. I have no more unworn clothing in my wardrobe.

I now know what I want my clothes to do for me. This is my Style Personality statement – what I want my clothes to say about me:-

“Relaxed look with an artinistic edge, dash of colour and uniqueness.”

Personality Style


I now accept and relish these elements that make me individual and unique. You need to understand yourself to create a wardrobe that works and supports you.

These first two Lessons From My Wardrobe are both strongly related to my personal characteristics. They are not about fashion, following trends or shopping aimlessly. Knowing, understanding and accepting myself has been a major factor in creating a wardrobe that supports and works for me.


Look out for 8 Lessons From My Wardrobe Part 2.



Guidelines for Shopping with Friends

Guidelines for Shopping with Friends


Who do you shop with? Do you prefer to shop alone or with a friend? There are advantages and disadvantages for shopping alone or with a friend. This guideline for shopping with friends outlines my thoughts and observations from my own and observing others shopping experiences. There can be advantages and disadvatages when you shop with someone else.

Guideline 1 – TRUST YOUSELF

Most people have the tendency to step out of the change room and ask their shopping partner this question:-

What do you think?

 When asked this question people usually respond in two ways:-

  • from what they see and how it looks or
  • from their own personal preference base of colour, style, pattern, texture and shapes.

Clothes can fit and look good on you and other people’s opinion can influence your decision or thoughts which can result in purchases that you regret and hang unworn in your wardrobe. When you only consider the fit and how it looks you are overlooking a very important element and that is how the clothing feels on you.

Before you step foot out of the changeroom look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself this all important question:-

How do I feel in this?

There is only one person who can answer this question and that is yourself. No matter how well clothing fits you and looks good on you if it doesn’t feel right then you will not feel comfortable and will not wear it. If you buy the item influenced by your friend or sales assistant’s opinions then it probably will become a put on and take off outfit and never make it out of the bedroom.

No matter how great something fits you do not buy it if it does not feel right.


How clothing feels on you strongly relates to understanding your Style Personality. Your Style Personalityy identifies the colour, shape, styles, comfort level, fabrics, scale, patterns and prints that relate to who you are. These elements combine to create your visual image that reflects who you are. This is very unique and individual.

This information about your Style Personality gives you the knowledge to understand why something that looks good and fits okay  just doesn’t seem right. With this knowledge you can be empowered by identifying what it is that doesn’t feel right.

This results in you making more informed choices about what you purchase and not be influenced by others or what’s in fashion. You know yourself and undestand what works for you. You can then make statements like :-

  • “This looks good but I don’t like the feel of the material. I know I wouldn’t wear this.”
  •   “I am not going to try this on because I don’t like wearing floral prints.”

Let me share a shopping story with you. I was shopping with a client who had brought her friend along for support. My client had great difficulty finding clothes that fitted and appealed to her. When she walked out of the change room with a smile on her face I knew she felt good in this. She also looked good in the dress.

Friend: “No, I don’t like that.”  – Clients smile disappeared.
Me: “What don’t you like?”

Friend: “The colour, I hate that colour.”
Me: “You might not like or wear that colour but how do you like it on Mary.”
Friend: “Oh, it does look good on her.” (Smile reappeared on my client’s face)

Me to Client: “How do you feel?”
Client: “I really like how it feels and looks.” (Client purchased the dress and has loved wearing it.)

If I had not questioned my client’s friend we would not have realised her response was coming from her own preferences and not really related to her friend.

Guideline 3 – Questions to Ask

The following questions are important questions and ones I ask my clients when shopping or working in their wardrobes. This helps them make informed decisions when thinking about what to buy. An individual item in the shops is only worth buying if you are going to enjoy wearing it.

Guidlines to take shopping with friends


These questions give you and your friends a guideline for thinking about purchases and not resonding to outside influences such as someone elses opinion or the latest trends.

When you go shopping with friends you need to support each other to buy wisely and not on impulse. You want to:-

  • Love the feel.
  • Love the look.
  • Love wearing it.




What is Your Shoe Style?

What is your shoe style?



Shoes are an important element when putting together an outfit, look what they did for Cinderella and Dorothy. There are shoes for for all ocassions,  varied styles and in many colours.

Everyone has unique style preferences when it comes to choosing the shoes that are ‘just right’ for them. These style preferences relate to your Personality Style. The elements that relate to your shoe Personality Style include:-

  • colour,
  • shapes and styles,
  • comfort level,
  • level of detail,
  • heel shape and height,
  • fabric choice

Last week I visited Tascha at Mainstreet Shoes in Queanbeyan and talked all things shoe related.  Let’s look at What’s Your Shoe Style. Remember when you look at these photos that your shoe preferences can be a combination of a few of these Personality Styles.



Classic shoes have a timeless, understated classy look. They are mainly in neutral colours with a low vamp and do not have much detail. The classic style includes court shoes with low to medium heel height.



 Natural / Relaxed shoe styles are generally practical, comfortable and functional with a no fuss look. A low heel is the preferred option with comfort being the number one factor in selecting shoes. The patterned floral print shoe at the front is a combination of  relaxed / natural style with a feminine floral print in creative colours.



Feminine shoe styles include court shoes, ballet flats and slip ons. Heels can be low or high and usually in colours to match outfits. These shoes will not be shiny or chunky but will have soft feminine features such as bows, ribbons, lace, flowers and sparkles.



Creative shoe styles include shoes with quirky and interesting detail such as unusual construction, styles, shapes, any patterns and combination of colours. These shoe styles will make a statement and create a focal point in your outfit.



Dramatic shoe styles are usually bold, and make a modern, contemporary statement. High heels, stilettos and pointed toes are usually preferred to flats. Geometric, graphic and animal prints are favoured. The animal print flat shoe would be a combination of relaxed and dramtic because of the animal print.



Elegant Chic shoe styles have a modern, sophisticated look. They are usually court shoes or ballet flat styles with metal decorations such as discs, buckles and flat squares. Preferred colours are usually light to medium neutrals – grey, camel, browns, burgundies and blues but nothing too dark or bright.



Rebellious / Sexy shoe styles are those that are somewhat unconventional or really sexy. The favoured colour is black and more black. Shoe styles in this group include doc martins, motorcyle boots, metal detailing such as chains, spikes and buckles and very high sexy styles.

Take a look at the shoes you love to wear and take note of the elements that you like to wear. These elements become your Shoe Personality.


What are Your Clothes Saying?

What are Your Clothes Saying?



Our clothes serve a greater purpose than just covering our nakedness. What you put on can have a positive or negative impact on how you feel, look and act. Studies have shown that what you wear can greatly influence your confidence, feelings, moods, productivity and  self concept. Professor

Karen Pine wrote a very interesting article Mind What You Wear: It Can Change Your Life.

How does your clothing make you feel?
When I started working from home I realised that what I wore or didn’t wear greatly effected my productivity. I found that I needed to get out of my pj’s or tracksuit if I wanted to have a positive working day. When I lifted the level of refinement of my outfit from tracksuit to jeans, top & jacket and added a splash of lipstick and earrings I felt in a frame of mind for work and achieved more. It is worth taking notice to how you feel in different outfits both physically and emotionally.

Does the clothing you wear tell your story?
The clothes you wear and how you wear them lets the world know who you are. Our clothing and grooming needs to reflect who we are from the inside out. When you dress to your Personality Style you will look and feel comfortable and confident. Your Personality Style influences your clothing choices in may ways and is an important factor in whether you feel ‘just right’ in your outfit. 

What you wear and how you wear your clothing will change depending on the activity you are dressing for. You need to consider how you want others to perceive you. This will vary depending on whether you  are dressing for a backyard barbeque, going out for dinner, job interview or a professional meeting.

The clothing you wear needs to be a great FIT in many ways – your clothing needs to fit your:-

  • Personality Style
  • Lifestyle
  • Now body shape and proportions

You might like to read Getting Dressed Using the 5 F Principles.





How to Move Your Style Forward

How to Move Your Style Forward



How to Move Your Style Forward outlines a process for setting actions for change. It is important to take some time to reflect on how you feel about your wardrobe and how it is meeting your needs.

Getting dressed each day starts in your wardrobe. Let’s step into your wardrobe to look at what is and isn’t working for you. What is in your wardrobe determines the choices you have on a daily basis so this makes a great starting point.

What you need in your wardrobe is clothing that:-

  • suits your NOW body not the one you had 10 years ago or when you lose weight
  • you enjoy wearing and makes you feel and look good
  • can be easily located and found
  • is suitable for the different activities in your life
  • easily mixes and matches to create multiple outfits thus giving you a valuable and versatile wardrobe


Reflecting on the last year in your wardrobe can identify actions for change. These questions look at  your frustrations and needs. They can help set your style directions.

  • What did I enjoy wearing?
    Identifying the outfits you enjoyed wearing can give you clues as to the style elements that you feel most comfortable wearing.
    The style elements you enjoy wearing are closely related to your Personality Style. The elements you need to take notice of include:
    – colours (dark, light, neutrals, colours)
    – patterns / prints (stripes, checks, spots, paisley, houndstooth, digital, floral, animal, geometric, stylised, graphic)
    – types of clothing (pants, skirts, tops, dresses)
    – fabrics (woven, stretch, soft, stiff)
    – shapes of clothing (loose, firm, fitted, symmetrical, asymmetrical)
    – accessories
  • What haven’t I worn?
    Most people only wear 20% of their wardrobe 80% of the time.

    Use the list  compiled from the questions above to look at the clothing you haven’t been wearing.
    Ask yourself how do I feel in this?
    Take some time to see if you can create outfits with the clothing you haven’t been wearing? If you aren’t able to do this then the item probably doesn’t belong in your wardrobe.
    While creating outfits take note of items of clothing that may be missing from your wardrobe. Create a list of items to fill your wardrobe gaps.
  • When did I feel frustrated or struggle to put together an outfit?
    Identify when you usually find it difficult or frustrating to put together an outfit that makes you feel and look good.

    Is it when you are:-
    – time poor and in a rush
    – feeling low or unwell
    – unable to find an item in your wardrobe
    – unable to create an outfit because you are missing a crucial piece


  • How organised is my wardrobe?
    An overcrowded or disorganised wardrobe will always make it challenging to get dressed without feeling frustrated. Take the time to reorganise, sort and cull your wardrobe can make a difference. 


  • Stop shopping for a while and take the time to SHOP IN YOUR WARDROBE.
  • Plan your outfits at the weekend or the night before.
  • Make a list of items that are missing from your wardrobe.
  • Ask yourself these three questions when you put on an outfit:-
    1. Does this fit?
    2. Does outfit flatter?
    3. How does this outfit make me feel?
Investing in a Style and or Wardrobe Consultation will save you time and energy getting dressed every morning and when shopping.



Five Questions to Take Shopping with You

Five Qiestions to Take Shopping with You


Shopping plays an important role in creating a wardrobe that becomes your own daily shopping boutique.  What you put in your wardrobe has the potential to contribute positively to your life everyday. What you buy will only add value and versatility to your wardrobe if you wear it.

These Five Questions to Take Shopping with You are Important

The next time you are thinking about buying clothing or accessories resist impulse buying by asking these these five questions:-

    Think how an item fits into your lifestyle. You are not going to wear a dress that is quite formal if you don’t attend formal activities.

    The ‘just in case item’ will be a waste of money and take up valuable space in your wardrobe.
    This relates to your Personality Style and what colours, fabrics, textures, level of details and scale you like to wear. When you buy items outside of your personality preferences you may not feel comfortable and these become your ‘put on, take off’ items.

    Make sure you try the clothing on so that you can determine the LOOK & FEEL of the clothing.
    This is so important. Just liking or loving a piece of clothing does not mean you will enjoy wearing it.
    This is an important question if you want to create mix and match outfits from your wardrobe. Having orphans in your wardrobe will be a waste of money and overcrowd the space.

    Before you walk out the shop with something think of at least three different outfits you could create with the intended purchase.
    When you ask this you consider the clothing’s place in your life and relates to question 1. I always plan to wear a new purchase within two weeks of buying it and this means it doesn’t become the forgotten piece.

    Once you have enjoyed wearing something you increase your chances of wearing it again.
    Avoid ending up with multiple items of the one thing. Many years ago I discovered that I had about 30 pairs of black tights. For some unknown reason I kept buying them when they were on sale.

These five questions provide you with a shopping guideline for making purchases that will:-

  • add value to your wardrobe and not just take up space,
  • save you money because you will wear the clothes you buy,
  • potentially stop overcrowding in your wardrobe. If your wardrobe is overcrowded this makes it difficult to find things and you wont wear them.





How to be Creative with Your Style


Loved this quote by Albert Einstein and how applicable it was to dressing and how to be creative with your style.

Every day we get dressed and create an outfit. If you are feeling that you are in a style slump and need some direction to give your outfit a lift then it is time to get creative. When I say this I am not talking about being flamboyant, wearing lots of colours or being way out there unless that is your Personality Style and within your comfort zone.

No matter what your Personality Style you can find a way to add your own individual edge to your outfits so that you have choices that add value and versatility to your wardrobe.

Some of you are probably saying ‘I am not creative.’ What I am talking about here is finding your own level of creativity that enables you to experiment and try something different to create outfits which are within your comfort zone.

When we wear the same outfits in the same way it can be mundane and boring and make us think that we need to go shopping to buy something different. I believe that if you look in your wardrobe with an open mind you will be able to put together outfit combinations you haven’t worn before. Taking the time to do this is worth it.

Here are some ways to start experimenting and add your own sense of creativity to getting dressed.

  1. Combine a top and bottom that you haven’t worn before.
  2. Create a focal point in your portrait area by adding a brooch, earrings, necklace or scarf.
  3. Combine 2 necklaces together. Even if you are a Classic Personality Style you can try wearing two chains of different lengths together to create a more creative classic look.
  4. Try combining different textures together. Even if you wear neutrals or outfits in one colour you can create interest by combining different textures.
  5. Experiment with wearing prints and patterns. Combine a patterned top (spots, stripes, florals with a plain bottom or vice versa). You can even combine two patterns together. Why not try putting a spotted scarf on with a striped top.

Have some fun trying new ways to wear your clothing and accessories that reflect your Personality Style.

Find more inspiration on HOW TO BE CREATIVE WITH YOUR STYLE

How to Combine Your Necklaces

How to Up Style Your Look

Mixing It Up With Prints and Patterns



What Does a Fitbit Have To Do With Style?

Anyone that knows me will tell you I am not a sporty person. I never thought I would ever write a post on a Fitbit but here it is……….

What Does a Fitbit have to Do with Style?

Let me tell you my fitbit story. (This is my story and not a paid promotion.)

What does a fitbit have to do with style?

The answer to this is lots more than I thought it would. It wasn’t until I finally purchased my fitbit that I realised the process I actually went through. Yes, I know fitbits are a functional item so what’s style got to do with it.

I have been looking for a fitbit for quite a while and couldn’t find one that I liked. Researching products is not a process I like to do. I’m not really into gadgets but liked the idea of knowing how much I was moving in a day. When I am sitting at my desk I can easily get lost down the rabbit hole and then realise I have not moved for hours. I saw the fitbit as a motivational tool to possibly get me moving and get back into an exercise routine.

Let’s look at my Personality Style to see what elements contributed to the fitbit I chose.

My Personality Style is a combination of:-

Relaxed Personality
Comfort factor is a high priority for me. I do not like feeling constrained in anyway. This meant that how the fit bit felt on my wrist was important. If something doesn’t feel right I will not buy it even if it fits and looks okay. I didn’t try many fitbits on because they were too chunky or sporty looking. (Yes, I know they are a sporty thing but I wanted my fitbit to not look too sportyish.)

Creative Personality
Being unique and looking different is an element of a Creative Personality. This meant that I don’t enjoy looking like everyone else. Colour also plays an important role in what I buy. I wanted a colour that I liked and I could team with whatever I wanted.

The fitbit alta ticked the following boxes for me:-

  • It had a thin band and actually looked like a bangle and felt comfortable on my wrist. My wrist did not feel like it was being choked.
  • It came in a range of colours that I liked, especially the plum and teal colours. This meant that I could have flexibility by changing the bands. At this stage I only have the plum colour but anticipate buying the teal band in the future.
  • I can make it look different by styling it with other bracelets.
  • It has the functions plus I few more that I wanted.

What does a Fitbit have to Do with Style?

It has to look and feel right by being part of your Personality Style. If it doesn’t you will probably not wear it. What works for someone else may not work for you. Make sure it feels right.

And here is my styled up fitbit.

Fitbit style


I am wearing and enjoying my fitbit and it is motivating me to be more active each day. These are my benefits so far:-

  • much more aware of how much activity I am having or not having.
  • moving away from my desk every 50 minutes so I am more active during the day.
  • have been motivated to go for afternoon walks because my number of steps hasn’t been high enough.
  • even been back to the gym.

5 Tips that Don’t Go Out of Style

Five Tips that Don't Go Out of Style


Fashion trends come and go. The flow of merchandise in most stores is very fast paced these days. Some stores have new stock every week. This is to encourage you the shopper to keep coming back in case you miss out on a bargain and the latest fashion trend.

Buying the latest fashion trend does not always mean you will look stylish. Style relates to you and how you wear your clothes. 

Here are some tips for you to think about that don’t go out of style.

  1. GOOD GROOMING is an important element of style. A great outfit can be spoilt by wearing scuffed shoes, unkept hair or stained, unironed clothes. Having your hair cut and styled regularly is a quick fix to keeping your appearance updated. Sometimes it is easy to overlook that our shoes are becoming somewhat scuffed and untidy. This is the case for the heels of our shoes, especially if you drive in them. I have ruined many a good heel by driving in them. Try to keep a spare pair of shoes in the car to save the heels of your better shoes. This may be a nuisance but in the long run it will be more cost effective.

    Good grooming adds the final polish to a great outfit. Look in the mirror and check yourself out front and back to see if you look the way you want to look.
  2. GOOD FIT – Don’t fall into the ‘too trap’ – too tight, too loose, too short, too long, too much exposure, too over the top or too outdated. All of these will take your look from stylish to trashy.
  3. BE APPROPRIATE – all situations and dress style from casual, smart casual , work attire to formal attire have certain levels of expected dress. The word casual in terms of dressing can be very broad and confusing. What you wear to the beach may not be appropriate attire for work or going out for dinner. Knowing how to use accessories to dress up or dress down an outfit can create many different looks for various occasions. Find out how here and here.
  4. EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE – Your style of dress needs to reflect who you are.  You will be at your most comfortable when your outside appearance is telling your story. Your choice of accessories, colours, prints & patterns, silhouettes and how you combine these elements in your outfits creates your Personality Style. Look at how these elements can be combined to create different looks for a pair of jeans.
  5. WEAR YOUR STYLE WITH A SMILE – A smile never goes out of fashion. When you are smiling you can look and feel more confident.


How to Connect the Dots in Your Wardrobe

How to Connecct the Dots in your Wardrobe


Are you happy with the clothes in your wardrobe? Do you keep buying more clothes because you feel you have nothing to wear?

What do you see when you open the w

ardrobe door? Do you see a cupboard full of individual clothing pieces or endless outfit possibilities?

Your shopping approach and habits greatly influence your wardrobe and how well your wardrobe relates to you. If you would like a more versatile wardrobe that inspires you every day it is time to change how you think when you go shopping and look in your wardrobe.

 An important key to creating a mix and match wardrobe is to think OUTFITS NOT INDIVIDUAL ITEMS OF CLOTHING.

I call this approach the DOT TO DOT STYLE APPROACH.

It means that you see all your clothing items – shoes, tops, skirts, shorts, pants, dresses, jackets, cardigans, jewellery, belts etc in terms of how they connect to other items of clothing to create outfits. Sometimes you don’t see the possibilities and outfit choices  that are staring you in the face everyday. By using the DOT TO DOT STYLE APPROACH you are looking for the elements such as colours, prints & patterns, shapes, types of clothing and accessories that can mix and match for many occasions. This creates a visual statement that expresses your personality style and suits your lifestyle needs. The steps to creating a DOT TO DOT STYLE APPROACH include:-

1. Think about who you are and how you want to look. This is called your Personality Style. Find out more about Personality Style here.

2. Look in your wardrobe and notice the patterns, prints, colours, types and shapes of clothing that are in there. Remember when I say clothing I am including shoes, bags, jewellery, scarves etc. You are creating a total look. Read more in Step into Style.

3. Play dress ups and put on some favourite outfits and pay attention to how they make you look and feel. What do you like about the outfits? Do the same for some outfits that you might not have worn for a while. Compare how you feel and look in these outfits.

4. Start creating different outfits with the clothing in your wardrobe to see what different looks you can discover. Take photos of the ones you like and put them on the inside of your wardrobe door so you can see your favourite outfits at a glance on those busy mornings.

5. Notice what items may be missing from your wardrobe that would contribute to an outfit. Create a shopping list and read How Do You Shop?

6. Ensure that your shopping purchases contribute positively to your wardrobe by asking yourself some questions before you buy:

  • Why did I pick this?
  • Where would I wear this?
  • Can I coordinate this to make at least 3 different looks/ outfits?
  • Does this colour flatter me?
  • Would I buy this if it wasn’t on sale?

If you want to wear more of your clothing most of the time try thinking  OUTFITS and adopting a DOT TO DOT STYLE APPROACH to your dressing. Your wardrobe will be your go to place for inspiration.  

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