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Guidelines for Shopping with Friends

Guidelines for Shopping with Friends


Who do you shop with? Do you prefer to shop alone or with a friend? There are advantages and disadvantages for shopping alone or with a friend. This guideline for shopping with friends outlines my thoughts and observations from my own and observing others shopping experiences. There can be advantages and disadvatages when you shop with someone else.

Guideline 1 – TRUST YOUSELF

Most people have the tendency to step out of the change room and ask their shopping partner this question:-

What do you think?

 When asked this question people usually respond in two ways:-

  • from what they see and how it looks or
  • from their own personal preference base of colour, style, pattern, texture and shapes.

Clothes can fit and look good on you and other people’s opinion can influence your decision or thoughts which can result in purchases that you regret and hang unworn in your wardrobe. When you only consider the fit and how it looks you are overlooking a very important element and that is how the clothing feels on you.

Before you step foot out of the changeroom look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself this all important question:-

How do I feel in this?

There is only one person who can answer this question and that is yourself. No matter how well clothing fits you and looks good on you if it doesn’t feel right then you will not feel comfortable and will not wear it. If you buy the item influenced by your friend or sales assistant’s opinions then it probably will become a put on and take off outfit and never make it out of the bedroom.

No matter how great something fits you do not buy it if it does not feel right.


How clothing feels on you strongly relates to understanding your Style Personality. Your Style Personalityy identifies the colour, shape, styles, comfort level, fabrics, scale, patterns and prints that relate to who you are. These elements combine to create your visual image that reflects who you are. This is very unique and individual.

This information about your Style Personality gives you the knowledge to understand why something that looks good and fits okay  just doesn’t seem right. With this knowledge you can be empowered by identifying what it is that doesn’t feel right.

This results in you making more informed choices about what you purchase and not be influenced by others or what’s in fashion. You know yourself and undestand what works for you. You can then make statements like :-

  • “This looks good but I don’t like the feel of the material. I know I wouldn’t wear this.”
  •   “I am not going to try this on because I don’t like wearing floral prints.”

Let me share a shopping story with you. I was shopping with a client who had brought her friend along for support. My client had great difficulty finding clothes that fitted and appealed to her. When she walked out of the change room with a smile on her face I knew she felt good in this. She also looked good in the dress.

Friend: “No, I don’t like that.”  – Clients smile disappeared.
Me: “What don’t you like?”

Friend: “The colour, I hate that colour.”
Me: “You might not like or wear that colour but how do you like it on Mary.”
Friend: “Oh, it does look good on her.” (Smile reappeared on my client’s face)

Me to Client: “How do you feel?”
Client: “I really like how it feels and looks.” (Client purchased the dress and has loved wearing it.)

If I had not questioned my client’s friend we would not have realised her response was coming from her own preferences and not really related to her friend.

Guideline 3 – Questions to Ask

The following questions are important questions and ones I ask my clients when shopping or working in their wardrobes. This helps them make informed decisions when thinking about what to buy. An individual item in the shops is only worth buying if you are going to enjoy wearing it.

Guidlines to take shopping with friends


These questions give you and your friends a guideline for thinking about purchases and not resonding to outside influences such as someone elses opinion or the latest trends.

When you go shopping with friends you need to support each other to buy wisely and not on impulse. You want to:-

  • Love the feel.
  • Love the look.
  • Love wearing it.




What is Your Shoe Style?

What is your shoe style?



Shoes are an important element when putting together an outfit, look what they did for Cinderella and Dorothy. There are shoes for for all ocassions,  varied styles and in many colours.

Everyone has unique style preferences when it comes to choosing the shoes that are ‘just right’ for them. These style preferences relate to your Personality Style. The elements that relate to your shoe Personality Style include:-

  • colour,
  • shapes and styles,
  • comfort level,
  • level of detail,
  • heel shape and height,
  • fabric choice

Last week I visited Tascha at Mainstreet Shoes in Queanbeyan and talked all things shoe related.  Let’s look at What’s Your Shoe Style. Remember when you look at these photos that your shoe preferences can be a combination of a few of these Personality Styles.



Classic shoes have a timeless, understated classy look. They are mainly in neutral colours with a low vamp and do not have much detail. The classic style includes court shoes with low to medium heel height.



 Natural / Relaxed shoe styles are generally practical, comfortable and functional with a no fuss look. A low heel is the preferred option with comfort being the number one factor in selecting shoes. The patterned floral print shoe at the front is a combination of  relaxed / natural style with a feminine floral print in creative colours.



Feminine shoe styles include court shoes, ballet flats and slip ons. Heels can be low or high and usually in colours to match outfits. These shoes will not be shiny or chunky but will have soft feminine features such as bows, ribbons, lace, flowers and sparkles.



Creative shoe styles include shoes with quirky and interesting detail such as unusual construction, styles, shapes, any patterns and combination of colours. These shoe styles will make a statement and create a focal point in your outfit.



Dramatic shoe styles are usually bold, and make a modern, contemporary statement. High heels, stilettos and pointed toes are usually preferred to flats. Geometric, graphic and animal prints are favoured. The animal print flat shoe would be a combination of relaxed and dramtic because of the animal print.



Elegant Chic shoe styles have a modern, sophisticated look. They are usually court shoes or ballet flat styles with metal decorations such as discs, buckles and flat squares. Preferred colours are usually light to medium neutrals – grey, camel, browns, burgundies and blues but nothing too dark or bright.



Rebellious / Sexy shoe styles are those that are somewhat unconventional or really sexy. The favoured colour is black and more black. Shoe styles in this group include doc martins, motorcyle boots, metal detailing such as chains, spikes and buckles and very high sexy styles.

Take a look at the shoes you love to wear and take note of the elements that you like to wear. These elements become your Shoe Personality.


What are Your Clothes Saying?

What are Your Clothes Saying?



Our clothes serve a greater purpose than just covering our nakedness. What you put on can have a positive or negative impact on how you feel, look and act. Studies have shown that what you wear can greatly influence your confidence, feelings, moods, productivity and  self concept. Professor

Karen Pine wrote a very interesting article Mind What You Wear: It Can Change Your Life.

How does your clothing make you feel?
When I started working from home I realised that what I wore or didn’t wear greatly effected my productivity. I found that I needed to get out of my pj’s or tracksuit if I wanted to have a positive working day. When I lifted the level of refinement of my outfit from tracksuit to jeans, top & jacket and added a splash of lipstick and earrings I felt in a frame of mind for work and achieved more. It is worth taking notice to how you feel in different outfits both physically and emotionally.

Does the clothing you wear tell your story?
The clothes you wear and how you wear them lets the world know who you are. Our clothing and grooming needs to reflect who we are from the inside out. When you dress to your Personality Style you will look and feel comfortable and confident. Your Personality Style influences your clothing choices in may ways and is an important factor in whether you feel ‘just right’ in your outfit. 

What you wear and how you wear your clothing will change depending on the activity you are dressing for. You need to consider how you want others to perceive you. This will vary depending on whether you  are dressing for a backyard barbeque, going out for dinner, job interview or a professional meeting.

The clothing you wear needs to be a great FIT in many ways – your clothing needs to fit your:-

  • Personality Style
  • Lifestyle
  • Now body shape and proportions

You might like to read Getting Dressed Using the 5 F Principles.





How to Move Your Style Forward

How to Move Your Style Forward



How to Move Your Style Forward outlines a process for setting actions for change. It is important to take some time to reflect on how you feel about your wardrobe and how it is meeting your needs.

Getting dressed each day starts in your wardrobe. Let’s step into your wardrobe to look at what is and isn’t working for you. What is in your wardrobe determines the choices you have on a daily basis so this makes a great starting point.

What you need in your wardrobe is clothing that:-

  • suits your NOW body not the one you had 10 years ago or when you lose weight
  • you enjoy wearing and makes you feel and look good
  • can be easily located and found
  • is suitable for the different activities in your life
  • easily mixes and matches to create multiple outfits thus giving you a valuable and versatile wardrobe


Reflecting on the last year in your wardrobe can identify actions for change. These questions look at  your frustrations and needs. They can help set your style directions.

  • What did I enjoy wearing?
    Identifying the outfits you enjoyed wearing can give you clues as to the style elements that you feel most comfortable wearing.
    The style elements you enjoy wearing are closely related to your Personality Style. The elements you need to take notice of include:
    – colours (dark, light, neutrals, colours)
    – patterns / prints (stripes, checks, spots, paisley, houndstooth, digital, floral, animal, geometric, stylised, graphic)
    – types of clothing (pants, skirts, tops, dresses)
    – fabrics (woven, stretch, soft, stiff)
    – shapes of clothing (loose, firm, fitted, symmetrical, asymmetrical)
    – accessories
  • What haven’t I worn?
    Most people only wear 20% of their wardrobe 80% of the time.

    Use the list  compiled from the questions above to look at the clothing you haven’t been wearing.
    Ask yourself how do I feel in this?
    Take some time to see if you can create outfits with the clothing you haven’t been wearing? If you aren’t able to do this then the item probably doesn’t belong in your wardrobe.
    While creating outfits take note of items of clothing that may be missing from your wardrobe. Create a list of items to fill your wardrobe gaps.
  • When did I feel frustrated or struggle to put together an outfit?
    Identify when you usually find it difficult or frustrating to put together an outfit that makes you feel and look good.

    Is it when you are:-
    – time poor and in a rush
    – feeling low or unwell
    – unable to find an item in your wardrobe
    – unable to create an outfit because you are missing a crucial piece


  • How organised is my wardrobe?
    An overcrowded or disorganised wardrobe will always make it challenging to get dressed without feeling frustrated. Take the time to reorganise, sort and cull your wardrobe can make a difference. 


  • Stop shopping for a while and take the time to SHOP IN YOUR WARDROBE.
  • Plan your outfits at the weekend or the night before.
  • Make a list of items that are missing from your wardrobe.
  • Ask yourself these three questions when you put on an outfit:-
    1. Does this fit?
    2. Does outfit flatter?
    3. How does this outfit make me feel?
Investing in a Style and or Wardrobe Consultation will save you time and energy getting dressed every morning and when shopping.



Five Questions to Take Shopping with You

Five Qiestions to Take Shopping with You


Shopping plays an important role in creating a wardrobe that becomes your own daily shopping boutique.  What you put in your wardrobe has the potential to contribute positively to your life everyday. What you buy will only add value and versatility to your wardrobe if you wear it.

These Five Questions to Take Shopping with You are Important

The next time you are thinking about buying clothing or accessories resist impulse buying by asking these these five questions:-

    Think how an item fits into your lifestyle. You are not going to wear a dress that is quite formal if you don’t attend formal activities.

    The ‘just in case item’ will be a waste of money and take up valuable space in your wardrobe.
    This relates to your Personality Style and what colours, fabrics, textures, level of details and scale you like to wear. When you buy items outside of your personality preferences you may not feel comfortable and these become your ‘put on, take off’ items.

    Make sure you try the clothing on so that you can determine the LOOK & FEEL of the clothing.
    This is so important. Just liking or loving a piece of clothing does not mean you will enjoy wearing it.
    This is an important question if you want to create mix and match outfits from your wardrobe. Having orphans in your wardrobe will be a waste of money and overcrowd the space.

    Before you walk out the shop with something think of at least three different outfits you could create with the intended purchase.
    When you ask this you consider the clothing’s place in your life and relates to question 1. I always plan to wear a new purchase within two weeks of buying it and this means it doesn’t become the forgotten piece.

    Once you have enjoyed wearing something you increase your chances of wearing it again.
    Avoid ending up with multiple items of the one thing. Many years ago I discovered that I had about 30 pairs of black tights. For some unknown reason I kept buying them when they were on sale.

These five questions provide you with a shopping guideline for making purchases that will:-

  • add value to your wardrobe and not just take up space,
  • save you money because you will wear the clothes you buy,
  • potentially stop overcrowding in your wardrobe. If your wardrobe is overcrowded this makes it difficult to find things and you wont wear them.





How to be Creative with Your Style


Loved this quote by Albert Einstein and how applicable it was to dressing and how to be creative with your style.

Every day we get dressed and create an outfit. If you are feeling that you are in a style slump and need some direction to give your outfit a lift then it is time to get creative. When I say this I am not talking about being flamboyant, wearing lots of colours or being way out there unless that is your Personality Style and within your comfort zone.

No matter what your Personality Style you can find a way to add your own individual edge to your outfits so that you have choices that add value and versatility to your wardrobe.

Some of you are probably saying ‘I am not creative.’ What I am talking about here is finding your own level of creativity that enables you to experiment and try something different to create outfits which are within your comfort zone.

When we wear the same outfits in the same way it can be mundane and boring and make us think that we need to go shopping to buy something different. I believe that if you look in your wardrobe with an open mind you will be able to put together outfit combinations you haven’t worn before. Taking the time to do this is worth it.

Here are some ways to start experimenting and add your own sense of creativity to getting dressed.

  1. Combine a top and bottom that you haven’t worn before.
  2. Create a focal point in your portrait area by adding a brooch, earrings, necklace or scarf.
  3. Combine 2 necklaces together. Even if you are a Classic Personality Style you can try wearing two chains of different lengths together to create a more creative classic look.
  4. Try combining different textures together. Even if you wear neutrals or outfits in one colour you can create interest by combining different textures.
  5. Experiment with wearing prints and patterns. Combine a patterned top (spots, stripes, florals with a plain bottom or vice versa). You can even combine two patterns together. Why not try putting a spotted scarf on with a striped top.

Have some fun trying new ways to wear your clothing and accessories that reflect your Personality Style.

Find more inspiration on HOW TO BE CREATIVE WITH YOUR STYLE

How to Combine Your Necklaces

How to Up Style Your Look

Mixing It Up With Prints and Patterns



What Does a Fitbit Have To Do With Style?

Anyone that knows me will tell you I am not a sporty person. I never thought I would ever write a post on a Fitbit but here it is……….

What Does a Fitbit have to Do with Style?

Let me tell you my fitbit story. (This is my story and not a paid promotion.)

What does a fitbit have to do with style?

The answer to this is lots more than I thought it would. It wasn’t until I finally purchased my fitbit that I realised the process I actually went through. Yes, I know fitbits are a functional item so what’s style got to do with it.

I have been looking for a fitbit for quite a while and couldn’t find one that I liked. Researching products is not a process I like to do. I’m not really into gadgets but liked the idea of knowing how much I was moving in a day. When I am sitting at my desk I can easily get lost down the rabbit hole and then realise I have not moved for hours. I saw the fitbit as a motivational tool to possibly get me moving and get back into an exercise routine.

Let’s look at my Personality Style to see what elements contributed to the fitbit I chose.

My Personality Style is a combination of:-

Relaxed Personality
Comfort factor is a high priority for me. I do not like feeling constrained in anyway. This meant that how the fit bit felt on my wrist was important. If something doesn’t feel right I will not buy it even if it fits and looks okay. I didn’t try many fitbits on because they were too chunky or sporty looking. (Yes, I know they are a sporty thing but I wanted my fitbit to not look too sportyish.)

Creative Personality
Being unique and looking different is an element of a Creative Personality. This meant that I don’t enjoy looking like everyone else. Colour also plays an important role in what I buy. I wanted a colour that I liked and I could team with whatever I wanted.

The fitbit alta ticked the following boxes for me:-

  • It had a thin band and actually looked like a bangle and felt comfortable on my wrist. My wrist did not feel like it was being choked.
  • It came in a range of colours that I liked, especially the plum and teal colours. This meant that I could have flexibility by changing the bands. At this stage I only have the plum colour but anticipate buying the teal band in the future.
  • I can make it look different by styling it with other bracelets.
  • It has the functions plus I few more that I wanted.

What does a Fitbit have to Do with Style?

It has to look and feel right by being part of your Personality Style. If it doesn’t you will probably not wear it. What works for someone else may not work for you. Make sure it feels right.

And here is my styled up fitbit.

Fitbit style


I am wearing and enjoying my fitbit and it is motivating me to be more active each day. These are my benefits so far:-

  • much more aware of how much activity I am having or not having.
  • moving away from my desk every 50 minutes so I am more active during the day.
  • have been motivated to go for afternoon walks because my number of steps hasn’t been high enough.
  • even been back to the gym.
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