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Five Steps to Develop Your Style Sense

Five Steps to Develop Your Style Sense

FIVE STEPS TO DEVELOP YOUR STYLE SENSE

This Five Steps to Develop Your Style Sense post has been incubating inside my head for months. Let’s start by identifying what I mean by ‘Style Sense.’ ‘Style Sense’ refers to how our five senses can support and guide us to understand the elements of our individual and unique dressing style or as I am calling it ‘Style Sense.’ It is all about identifying and choosing your personal preferences so that your clothes are supporting who you are as a person, your NOW body and your lifestyle requirements.

Let’s explore how your senses can contribute to your ‘Style Sense.’

STEP 1. SIGHT – What do You See? 

The sense of sight relates to understanding how to dress your body shape, proportions and variations in an enhancing way.

We use our sight to interpret what we see when we look in the mirror, wardrobe, shops, magazines and at others. Quite often this leads to thoughts of comparison which leads to undervaluing yourself.

Many women avoid looking in the mirror and when they do, they focus on what they see as perceived flaws and the lumps and bumps that may be covered by the clothes. When you do this you are missing a great opportunity to change your focus from  your body  to the clothes and observing how the clothes are working with or against you. It is worth noting that other people don’t notice your ‘perceived flaws.’

Sometimes shopping purchases are made on the premise that the clothing fits and looks okay – (a friend or shop assistant said so) and then the purchased item remains in the wardrobe not worn. Beware that clothing can fit the body and look good but still not appeal to the wearer. This is where your sense of taste becomes important.

STEP 2. TASTE – What are Your Personal Tastes?

You are probably thinking that the sense of taste has nothing to do with getting dressed and developing your style. Taste is the sense that traditionally relates to eating and enables us to distinguish between food items we like or don’t like.

I am going to stretch the interpretation of this sense to relate to recognising the elements in clothing that relate to  identifying your Style Personality.

The elements that make up your Style Personality include:-

  • colours,
  • patterns,
  • shapes,
  • fabric,
  • accessories,
  • patterns and prints,
  • hair style,
  • levels of detail,
  • comfort levels,
  • underwear style,
  • scale.

These elements become your unique style fingerprint and tell the story of how you wish to be perceived.

Your visual appearance and ‘Style Sense’ is not just based on your outward appearance but comes from the inside out through your personal preferences.

The chances are you have clothes in your wardrobe that fit you well, look good but you still do not wear. This is because there are aspects in these unworn clothing pieces that are not part of your Style Personality.

Understanding your Style Personality is an important element and influences 80% of your shopping choices. When you know your Style Personality elements you will save time and money when shopping. You will also have less unworn orphaned clothes hanging in your wardrobe.

Take notice of the elements listed above and identify which ones relate to you. Let these items guide and influence your future shopping choices. If you try something on and it fits and looks good but you just don’t feel right in it, it is because something in the clothing / outfit is not relating to your Style Personality elements.

STEP 3. TOUCH –  How does it feel?

The sense of touch also relates closely to your Style Personality. Wearing clothes is definitely a sensory experience. Everybody is different and unique in their preferences for what fabrics & materials they prefer to wear and have different comfort level requirements.

I have a very high comfort level requirement which has resulted in a wardrobe with mostly stretch fabrics and some linen. I cannot tolerate any shapewear / spanx garments as I feel like I have been put in goal. I do not buy online because I have a strong need to touch the fabric before I try it one. My tactile sense is high when it comes to the clothes I wear.

Do you have clothes in your wardrobe that you are not wearing because they do not meet your comfort and tactile needs?

A very important question to ask yourself when shopping or creating outfits from your wardrobe is ‘How do I feel?’ I call this the ‘Goldilock’s Principle.’

Do not purchase any item that doesn’t feel just right. If it is not just right then you are wasting your money and it will take up valuable real estate space in your wardrobe.

STEP 4. HEARING  – What do You Hear?

The sense of hearing relates to the voice inside your head, what others are saying to you as well as your personal noise barometer. What are you saying to yourself? Start to listen to that voice inside your head and take notice to whether your thoughts and comments to yourself are being positive or negative.  This inner critic voice will always want to foster negative thoughts if you let it. 

It is time to start to reframe your thinking when looking at your body and outfits. The other day I tried on a jumpsuit that I didn’t buy because it was just a little firm around the hips. When I came out of the change room and the sales lady asked , ‘How did it go?‘ I replied ‘This jumpsuit wasn’t made for my hip area.’ My words were not focused on my body not being right but on this article of clothing not being the best choice for the look I wanted and needed. It is possible to change the focus of your inner critic from being negative to being supportive.

What do you do when someone pays you a compliment? Many of us usually argue against what was said. Take notice of compliments and be accepting of them with a thank you and a smile.

Some accessories and fabrics can be distracting for the wearer and others because they can be noisy. Do you have some accessories or clothing that you are not wearing because it makes a noise. I had a pair of shoes that I loved wearing but they were so distracting because they made a squeaky sound.

STEP 5. SMELL – What are your preferences?

This sense is not quite as significant as the others. If your sense of smell is strong then you may find that some fabrics may not appeal to you. The other area that this sense can impact on is our personal hygiene and perfume preferences. It is important to remember to not over or under do the amount of perfumed products you wear.

Take a look in your wardrobe and notice the clothing that you are not wearing. Create outfits with the unworn clothing and try to identify what is not working for you.

‘Style Sense’ needs to start with recognising the elements in the clothing  you wear that you love, bring you joy and confidence. When you recognise these elements then use this knowledge to inform the outfits you create and the clothing you buy. Become more aware of YOU.

A professional style consultation explores how you can combine these elements to create a harmonious, coordinated and balanced outfit that enhances who you are, your NOW body shape and supports your work and social lifestyle.

FURTHER READING

How to Move Your Style Forward

How to Move Your Style Forward

 

HOW TO MOVE YOUR STYLE FORWARD

How to Move Your Style Forward outlines a process for setting actions for change. It is important to take some time to reflect on how you feel about your wardrobe and how it is meeting your needs.

Getting dressed each day starts in your wardrobe. Let’s step into your wardrobe to look at what is and isn’t working for you. What is in your wardrobe determines the choices you have on a daily basis so this makes a great starting point.

What you need in your wardrobe is clothing that:-

  • suits your NOW body not the one you had 10 years ago or when you lose weight
  • you enjoy wearing and makes you feel and look good
  • can be easily located and found
  • is suitable for the different activities in your life
  • easily mixes and matches to create multiple outfits thus giving you a valuable and versatile wardrobe

HOW TO MOVE YOUR STYLE FORWARD – WHAT IS OR ISN’T WORKING?

Reflecting on the last year in your wardrobe can identify actions for change. These questions look at  your frustrations and needs. They can help set your style directions.

  • What did I enjoy wearing?
    Identifying the outfits you enjoyed wearing can give you clues as to the style elements that you feel most comfortable wearing.
    The style elements you enjoy wearing are closely related to your Personality Style. The elements you need to take notice of include:
    – colours (dark, light, neutrals, colours)
    – patterns / prints (stripes, checks, spots, paisley, houndstooth, digital, floral, animal, geometric, stylised, graphic)
    – types of clothing (pants, skirts, tops, dresses)
    – fabrics (woven, stretch, soft, stiff)
    – shapes of clothing (loose, firm, fitted, symmetrical, asymmetrical)
    – accessories
 
  • What haven’t I worn?
    Most people only wear 20% of their wardrobe 80% of the time.

    Use the list  compiled from the questions above to look at the clothing you haven’t been wearing.
    Ask yourself how do I feel in this?
    Take some time to see if you can create outfits with the clothing you haven’t been wearing? If you aren’t able to do this then the item probably doesn’t belong in your wardrobe.
    While creating outfits take note of items of clothing that may be missing from your wardrobe. Create a list of items to fill your wardrobe gaps.
 
  • When did I feel frustrated or struggle to put together an outfit?
    Identify when you usually find it difficult or frustrating to put together an outfit that makes you feel and look good.

    Is it when you are:-
    – time poor and in a rush
    – feeling low or unwell
    – unable to find an item in your wardrobe
    – unable to create an outfit because you are missing a crucial piece

 

  • How organised is my wardrobe?
    An overcrowded or disorganised wardrobe will always make it challenging to get dressed without feeling frustrated. Take the time to reorganise, sort and cull your wardrobe can make a difference. 

NEXT STEPS FOR MOVING YOUR STYLE FORWARD

  • Stop shopping for a while and take the time to SHOP IN YOUR WARDROBE.
  • Plan your outfits at the weekend or the night before.
  • Make a list of items that are missing from your wardrobe.
  • Ask yourself these three questions when you put on an outfit:-
    1. Does this fit?
    2. Does outfit flatter?
    3. How does this outfit make me feel?
  • CONTACT INDIVIDUALLY YOU FOR A FREE 30 MINUTE STYLE DISCOVERY CHAT OR CONSULTATION
Investing in a Style and or Wardrobe Consultation will save you time and energy getting dressed every morning and when shopping.
 
DISCOVER HOW TO HAVE CONFIDENT STYLE – YOUR WAY EVERY DAY?

 

 
 

Five Questions to Take Shopping with You

Five Qiestions to Take Shopping with You

 

Shopping plays an important role in creating a wardrobe that becomes your own daily shopping boutique.  What you put in your wardrobe has the potential to contribute positively to your life everyday. What you buy will only add value and versatility to your wardrobe if you wear it.

These Five Questions to Take Shopping with You are Important

The next time you are thinking about buying clothing or accessories resist impulse buying by asking these these five questions:-

  1. WHERE DOES IT FIT?
    Think how an item fits into your lifestyle. You are not going to wear a dress that is quite formal if you don’t attend formal activities.

    The ‘just in case item’ will be a waste of money and take up valuable space in your wardrobe.
  2. HOW DOES IT FIT?
    This relates to your Personality Style and what colours, fabrics, textures, level of details and scale you like to wear. When you buy items outside of your personality preferences you may not feel comfortable and these become your ‘put on, take off’ items.

    Make sure you try the clothing on so that you can determine the LOOK & FEEL of the clothing.
    This is so important. Just liking or loving a piece of clothing does not mean you will enjoy wearing it.
  3. WHAT DOES IT GO WITH?
    This is an important question if you want to create mix and match outfits from your wardrobe. Having orphans in your wardrobe will be a waste of money and overcrowd the space.

    Before you walk out the shop with something think of at least three different outfits you could create with the intended purchase.
  4. WHERE CAN I WEAR IT?
    When you ask this you consider the clothing’s place in your life and relates to question 1. I always plan to wear a new purchase within two weeks of buying it and this means it doesn’t become the forgotten piece.

    Once you have enjoyed wearing something you increase your chances of wearing it again.
  5. DO I HAVE ANYTHING LIKE THIS ALREADY?
    Avoid ending up with multiple items of the one thing. Many years ago I discovered that I had about 30 pairs of black tights. For some unknown reason I kept buying them when they were on sale.

These five questions provide you with a shopping guideline for making purchases that will:-

  • add value to your wardrobe and not just take up space,
  • save you money because you will wear the clothes you buy,
  • potentially stop overcrowding in your wardrobe. If your wardrobe is overcrowded this makes it difficult to find things and you wont wear them.

REMEMBER THESE FIVE QUESTIONS TO TAKE SHOPPING WITH YOU

 

 

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