GUIDELINES FOR SHOPPING WITH FRIENDS
Who do you shop with? Do you prefer to shop alone or with a friend? There are advantages and disadvantages for shopping alone or with a friend. This guideline for shopping with friends outlines my thoughts and observations from my own and observing others shopping experiences. There can be advantages and disadvantages when you shop with someone else.
Guideline 1 – TRUST YOURSELF
Most people have the tendency to step out of the change room and ask their shopping partner this question:-
What do you think?
When asked this question people usually respond in two ways:-
- from what they see and how it looks or
- from their own personal preference base of colour, style, pattern, texture and shapes.
Clothes can fit and look good on you and other people’s opinion can influence your decision or thoughts which can result in purchases that you regret and hang unworn in your wardrobe. When you only consider the fit and how it looks you are overlooking a very important element and that is how the clothing feels on you.
Before you step foot out of the change room look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself this all important question:-
How do I feel in this?
There is only one person who can answer this question and that is yourself. No matter how well clothing fits you and looks good on you if it doesn’t feel right then you will not feel comfortable and will not wear it. If you buy the item influenced by your friend or sales assistant’s opinions then it probably will become a put on and take off outfit and never make it out of the bedroom.
No matter how great something fits you do not buy it if it does not feel right.
Guideline 2 – KNOW YOUR PERSONALITY STYLE
How clothing feels on you strongly relates to understanding your Style Personality. Your Style Personality identifies the colour, shape, styles, comfort level, fabrics, scale, patterns and prints that relate to who you are. These elements combine to create your visual image that reflects who you are. This is very unique and individual.
This information about your Style Personality gives you the knowledge to understand why something that looks good and fits okay just doesn’t seem right. With this knowledge you can be empowered by identifying what it is that doesn’t feel right.
This results in you making more informed choices about what you purchase and not be influenced by others or what’s in fashion. You know yourself and understand what works for you. You can then make statements like :-
- “This looks good but I don’t like the feel of the material. I know I wouldn’t wear this.”
- “I am not going to try this on because I don’t like wearing floral prints.”
Let me share a shopping story with you. I was shopping with a client who had brought her friend along for support. My client had great difficulty finding clothes that fitted and appealed to her. When she walked out of the change room with a smile on her face I knew she felt good in this. She also looked good in the dress.
Friend: “No, I don’t like that.” – Clients smile disappeared.
Me: “What don’t you like?”
Friend: “The colour, I hate that colour.”
Me: “You might not like or wear that colour but how do you like it on Mary.”
Friend: “Oh, it does look good on her.” (Smile reappeared on my client’s face)
Me to Client: “How do you feel?”
Client: “I really like how it feels and looks.” (Client purchased the dress and has loved wearing it.)
If I had not questioned my client’s friend we would not have realised her response was coming from her own preferences and not really related to her friend.
Guideline 3 – Questions to Ask
The following questions are important questions and ones I ask my clients when shopping or working in their wardrobes. This helps them make informed decisions when thinking about what to buy. An individual item in the shops is only worth buying if you are going to enjoy wearing it.
These questions give you and your friends a guideline for thinking about purchases and not responding to outside influences such as someone elses opinion or the latest trends.
When you go shopping with friends you need to support each other to buy wisely and not on impulse. You want to:-
- Love the feel.
- Love the look.
- Love wearing it.