Confident Style – Your Way Every Day

What are Your Clothes Saying?

What are Your Clothes Saying?

 

WHAT ARE YOUR CLOTHES SAYING?

Our clothes serve a greater purpose than just covering our nakedness. What you put on can have a positive or negative impact on how you feel, look and act. Studies have shown that what you wear can greatly influence your confidence, feelings, moods, productivity and  self concept. Professor

Karen Pine wrote a very interesting article Mind What You Wear: It Can Change Your Life.

How does your clothing make you feel?
When I started working from home I realised that what I wore or didn’t wear greatly effected my productivity. I found that I needed to get out of my pj’s or tracksuit if I wanted to have a positive working day. When I lifted the level of refinement of my outfit from tracksuit to jeans, top & jacket and added a splash of lipstick and earrings I felt in a frame of mind for work and achieved more. It is worth taking notice to how you feel in different outfits both physically and emotionally.

Does the clothing you wear tell your story?
The clothes you wear and how you wear them lets the world know who you are. Our clothing and grooming needs to reflect who we are from the inside out. When you dress to your Personality Style you will look and feel comfortable and confident. Your Personality Style influences your clothing choices in may ways and is an important factor in whether you feel ‘just right’ in your outfit. 

What you wear and how you wear your clothing will change depending on the activity you are dressing for. You need to consider how you want others to perceive you. This will vary depending on whether you  are dressing for a backyard barbeque, going out for dinner, job interview or a professional meeting.

The clothing you wear needs to be a great FIT in many ways – your clothing needs to fit your:-

  • Personality Style
  • Lifestyle
  • Now body shape and proportions

You might like to read Getting Dressed Using the 5 F Principles.

 

 

 

 
How Can A Personal Stylist Help You?

 

HOW CAN A PERSONAL STYLIST HELP YOU?

I often get asked ‘What does a Personal Stylist do’? Many people are unaware of what a Personal Stylist actually does. They think a Personal Stylist is only for celebrities and just takes you shopping. This is definitely not the case.

A Personal Stylist can add much value and contribute positively to how you feel everyday. The reasons women seek out the assistance of a Personal Stylist include:-

  •  tired of spending money on clothing they do not wear,
  •  hate clothes shopping,
  • unsure what clothing suits them,
  • wear the same clothes on rotation and feel bored and frustrated,
  • have many clothes in the wardrobe but still can’t find anything to wear,
  • struggle to make outfits with the clothing in their wardrobe,
  • don’t know what is appropriate dress for certain situations,
  • have a wardrobe that is dated and not current,
  • not happy with the way they look,
  • tired of wasting money on clothes they don’t wear,
  • want assistance to declutter their wardrobe and discover what they have,
  • discover the colours that work best for them and always makes them look healthy and radiant,
  • have many clothes in their wardrobe that fit but when they put them on take them off again and don’t wear them,
  • feel the need to make a positive change with their visual image.

Working with a Personal Stylist  is not about:-

  • fashion and trends,
  • spending lots of money 
  • having a quick make over following rules and looking like everyone else or your favourite celebrity.
How Can a Personal Stylist help You?

Working with A Personal Stylist is about:-
 

  • understanding your uniqueness – the person behind the clothes
  • discovering how the clothes you wear can tell your individual story of who you are,
  • knowing how to dress your physical assets in an enhancing way to highlight your best features,
  • understanding the colours that harmonise with your complexion and how to use colour for dressing to create a focus and impact,
  • maximising the clothes you wear by being able to dress your outfits  up and down for the occasion,
  • creating a wardrobe of clothing that can easily be coordinated in a variety of ways to meet the needs of your lifestyle,
  • gaining greater body confidence and self acceptance,
  • having the knowledge and confidence to style an outfit in many ways for different purposes,
  • shopping with purpose because you know what’s in your wardrobe and know what you need to fill the gaps,
  • being able to get dressed each day with less frustration and wardrobe melt downs,
  • self care.                                                             
A Personal Stylist can give you
CONFIDENT STYLE – EVERY DAY YOUR WAY
 
 

Steps to Create More Outfits

Steps to Create More Outfits

How is your wardrobe contributing to your life?

Is your wardrobe:-

  • a place that you can go to each day and easily create an outfit that makes you look and feel great?
  • bringing you joy?
  • the right mix of clothes for who you are and your lifestyle requirements?
  • current and not outdated?
  • full of clothes that easily mix and match to create a variety of outfits?
  • an inspiring place to visit?

Many wardrobes that I go into have lost their purpose and direction. They have become storage spaces for unworn, unloved and forgotten clothing. Having a lot of clothes and going shopping does not ensure that you have a wardrobe that works for you.

A wardrobe that works for you will give you the gift of:-

  • confidence,
  • inspiration,
  • energy,
  • versatility and value every day.

Let’s look at ways to make your wardrobe your favourite place to shop.

These steps outline the process that I adopted over the last year to create more outfits to wear.

1. Review how you feel about your wardrobe

Ask yourself these two questions:-

  • What do I want from the clothes in  my wardrobe?
  • What don’t I want from the clothes in my wardrobe?

When I asked myself these questions this what I came up with:-

  • I want my clothes to:-
    – easily mix and match,
    – have the versatility to be dressed up and down
    – be comfortable and give me freedom to move easily
    – make me smile every day
    – give me energy
    – be different
    – last for more than one season
    – bring colour to each day
  • I don’t want my clothes to:-
    – be the same old same old
    – hang in the wardrobe and not be worn
    – be a waste of money
    – not have the ‘Goldilock’s Principle’ – read more here

2. Look at Your Colour Palette

Open your wardrobe doors or step into your walk in, stand back and take note of the colours you see.
Are they a mismatch of colours or do they coordinate?

A colour palette is needed if you want to be able to mix and match your clothing items.

Your colour palette needs to have:-

  • neutrals – colours not on the colour wheel such as black, grey, camel, brown, beige, navy
  • colours that cordinate  to add interest, variety and accents. This gives you the opportunity to create more outfits from your wardrobe pieces.

Having a Colour Consultation with a professional stylist ensures you wear colours that make you shine and are able to build a cohesive wardrobe.

Be Colour Confident  outlines the benefits of a Colour Consult.

When I looked in my wardrobe I noticed that black was my neutral and teal was my main colour. I have added three new neutrals – navy, grey and white plus berry colours as well as  patterned tops and pants.

Steps to Create Outfits

This white Cotton Village tunic upstyles these eight year old Cordelia Collection shorts. Shoes and necklaces used to upstyle. It can be worn with jeans, slimmer line pants and with a slip dress under it.

 

How to Create More Outfits

This grey Cotton On dress is teamed with navy accessories to create a professional work outfit. Just by changing the accessories I can change the look and feel of the outfit.

 

What a difference it has  made to the number of new outfits I can wear. By adding only one new piece of clothing to your wardrobe that coordinates with four other pieces you now have four new outfits. Now that is an investment.

2. What is Missing?

What is in your wardrobe needs to compliment your lifestyle? Think about the types of activities you need clothing for to determine what you need to shop for. This gives direction when shopping and lessens impulse buying.

My wardrobe was very lacking in summer play or casual clothes. This year I added two pairs of shorts as well as a couple of summer dresses. This summer I showed my legs (yes I had to shave them more regularly).  I have kept my legs covered by wearing pants for most of my life.

After years I threw my irrational thoughts about my legs out the window and exposed them by wearing shorts or knee length dresses. This was very liberating. We have to work at feeling good about our body and being realistic as to whether our thoughts are founded in reality or not.  

Steps to Create More Outfits

Wearing this berry  Cotton On top with Big W navy with white spot shorts. The shorts are actually men’s – I find them very comfortable on my straight up and down H shape body. The top has had the straight hemline cut  into an asymmetrical line. This is actually a cold shoulder top with the sleeves tucked in.

 

Steps to Create More Outfits

Many clothing items can be worn as casual or smart casual. Teaming these Target blue & white sorts with my favourite top and adding accessories I was ready for a lunch date.

 

3Set Yourself Style Challenges

Opening the wardrobe door and reaching for the same old outfit combinations is going to lead to feelings of boredom and the ‘I’ve got nothing to wear’ syndrome. To maximise  the clothing in your wardrobe you need to take some time to play and experiment to discover the potential outfits that you actually have in your wardrobe. There are a lot more than you think.

This year I set myself two style challenges to take me out of my comfort zone and maintain interest and variety in what I wear. 

  1. Mix and match patterns and prints. (see images below)
  2. Wear more than one necklace at a time.

I also set aside time (20 minutes to an hour) every four to six weeks to go shopping in my wardrobe. My aim is to create new outfit combinations I haven’t worn before. This makes me really look in my wardrobe and I discover forgotten clothing that is given a new life. Sometimes it results in items added to my shopping list. It also can be time for some quick culling when I discover something that doesn’t fit or I don’t like any more – wardrobe maintenance on the go. 

Here are some ideas for shopping in your wardrobe to create new outfit combinations:-

  • An organised wardrobe makes it easy to SEE, FIND and REACH your clothing when getting dressed. It also saves you time. If you need some pointers on wardrobe organisation read What Your Wardrobe Doesn’t Need
  • TRACK and MONITOR what you are wearing. Hang all your clothes on the rail backwards with the hook facing frontwards. Yes it does feel very strange and awkward but it d0es serve a great purpose. When you wear an item of clothing rehang it with the  hook facing in toward the wardrobe. (Hope this makes sense) This means that you can clearly see what clothes you are not wearing and make choices to wear something different. The more of your clothes you are wearing on a regular basis the more value you are getting from the money you have spent.
  • SET YOURSELF A GOAL to wear at least one different outfit combination a week. Reach for an item of clothing that is hanging backwards. Sometimes it is easy to reach for the same reliable combination because it is easy. This results in wardrobe boredom and wasting money on clothes that are just taking up valuable wardrobe space.
  • RESTYLE a favourite outfit
  • – change the shoes you wear,
    – add an accessory ( necklace, earrings, brooch, belt, scarf, different handbag.
    Read How to Upstyle an Outfit from Day to Night for more restyling tips.
  • MIXING PRINTS & PATTERNS can be a great way to increase the number of outfit choices in your wardrobe. Read more here.How to Create More Outfits

Wearing two patterns – my long lasting Andiamo pants with a home made newsprint top jazzed up with red accessories. When I add a colour to an outfit I like to repeat it once or three times.

 

  • STYLE WORD for the day – Think about what you are doing for the day and choose a couple of words to help guide your outfit selection.How to Create More Outfits
    Inspiration for this outfit combination came from the words playful and fun. The spots, colour and big earrings create that feel. A young girl in a shop actually said to me, ‘your outfit is great, it is so much fun.’
  •  TAKE PHOTOS of the outfits you create and love to wear. Use the photos for inspiration when getting dressed. It is very easy to forget some of the great outfits you create. Keep a record on your phone or print out the photos, laminate them and attach them to a curtain ring hanging on the back of your wardrobe door for easy access. There are also style apps you can use but I haven’t used them.
  • PLAN your outfit the night before or select a few on the weekend. When you are in a hurry you will always reach for what you know and walk out the day not feeling confident and happy.

Hope these tips inspire you to SHOP and PLAY in your wardrobe so that you can get dressed with

STYLE CONFIDENCE – YOUR WAY EVERY DAY.

 

 

 

 

Four Life Lessons to Move Forward in 2018

What Does Starting a New Year Mean?

For me the new year is not about new beginnings. It is about continuing to grow and learn from the life lessons and experiences of the previous year. I like to think about how I am going to approach and move forward so that I have positive change in my thoughts, beliefs, actions, experiences, success and happiness.

Looking back is sometimes the way to move forward.  The three words I would use to describe 2017 would be:-

  • challenging – physically, emotionally and mentally I lost my way and came to a complete stop because I didn’t have the mental or physical capacity to do anything. Feeling this out of control with my life was scary and I came to a complete standstill.
  • unexpected – I didn’t see this coming. I was in denial about how I was feeling and had ignored many warning signs over a period of time. Accepting and admitting out loud to another person that I wasn’t coping was the first step towards regaining myself and my  life.
  • self focussed – I needed to step aside to give myself the time and space to focus on my own well being and healing. Making the decision to step aside and consider stopping my business was so very hard but essential to my future well being. I have mostly thought of myself as being invincible and able to bounce back quickly.

2017 wasn’t the year that I had planned but it was a year that I gave back to myself and learnt some very valuable lessons to take with me into the future.

Lesson 1 – Recognise My Vulnerability

  • I can’t fix everyone’s problems but I can be there to support and help when needed.
  • My emotional state impacts greatly on my back which then results in pain and not being able to function at the level I want.
  • It is not possible to do everything all of the time – need to be more realistic.

Lesson 2 – What is Important to Me?

  • Making a difference to myself and others life – personal and business.
  • Planning time to be with friends and family.
  • Being creative – gardening, collaging, sewing, styling, playing piano and flute.
  • Continuing with my business.

Lesson 3 – What Does Self Care Look Like for Me

  • My body needs to be taken care of differently to continue functioning as I move into my 60th year.
  • Plan exercise – walking, pilates, bike riding into my week. (Remember you want to do a Great Ocean Walk next year.)
  • Making personal appointments when needed and not putting them off – (hairdresser, beautician, physio, blood tests etc.)
  • Play dates with my husband, family and friends.
  • Panning and taking me time for creative play.
  • Being in contact with others.

Lesson 4 – Giving Myself Permission to Say No

  • I have realised that it is okay to say no and not feel guilty to invitations and events when the timing, energy or inclination isn’t there. This one is a big one and relates closely to my continued self care.

2018 – WORD FOCUS

A year equals 365 opportunities so I like to choose a word that will guide me towards making decisions, positive and conscious changes and establishing beliefs and actions that contribute to a successful year that is packed with laughter, love, fun, happiness and success.

My word for 2018 is EMPOWERMENT.

As you move forward into 2018 take this message with you.

Four Life Lessons to Move Forward in 2018

You may like to read more about Choosing a Focus word:-

Creating Positive Change 2017

Where Am I Going 2016?

Which Direction are You Going?

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to update an outfit from day to night

HOW TO UPSTYLE AN OUTFIT FROM DAY TO NIGHT

The clothes we wear need to complement our lifestyle and be appropriate for various activities and occasions. Levels of Refinement refers to the different classification of clothing and accessories for different occasions from very informal and relaxed to formal.

The level of refinement is determined by:-

  • type of activity or occasion,
  • differences in fabric or material, shape and drape of material, textures and patterns.

Read more about levels of refinement here.

It is possible that you can take a casual outfit and upstyle it to create an outfit that can take you from a very relaxed day at home to lunch and then a dinner date. Let’s look at how I upstyled an outfit to take me from day to night.

How to upstyle an outfit from day to night

When I dressed in these pants and top it was for a very relaxed day at home. There was no jewellery or shoes and the top was hanging loose. As you can see it is not a flattering outfit because of the proportions and the hemline. The horizontal hemline is in line with the widest part of my body and is also cutting me in half.

 

When I received an invitation to lunch with a friend I added the necklace, earrings and sandals.

I also changed the unflattering hemline by using the half tuck method.

Just by adding  jewellery and using the half tuck this outfit became lunch ready.

 

How to upstyle an outfit from day to night

 

I had forgotten that I was also going out for tea so another upstyle of this outfit was required. By adding a different necklace, pair of shoes and long cardigan I became dinner ready.

STEPS TO UPSTYLE AN OUTFIT FROM DAY TO NIGHT

three easy steps to upstyle an outfit:-

  • add accessories – earrings, brooch, necklace, bangle, scarf
  • add a third piece – jacket, cardigan, vest, kimino
  • change shoes to suit the activity

Play with your outfits to see how you can upstyle them for different activities and get more wear, value and versatility from them.

Know what you have in your wardrobe and wear it as much as possible.

 

 

 

Did you know that even your watch is part of your style story? Dressing to your Personality Style ensures that the clothing / accessory details and elements that make up your outfit feel comfortable and just right for you.

Watches are available in many different styles, colours, materials, sizes and details and the one that you wear will be expressing an element of your personality.

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR WATCH PERSONALITY?

 

What is Your Watch Personaliity?

 

  • CLASSIC
    – timeless, classy, elegant, conservative, simple, understated, professional
    – plain face with gold, silver or black band – possibly leather band
    – small to medium scale
  • RELAXED / NATURAL
    – practical, natural, relaxed, uncluttered, comfortable, no fuss, functional
    – easy to read, possibly brown leather band
    – medium scale
  • FEMININE
    – delicate, soft, pretty, old fashioned, romantic
    – delicate, fine bracelet looking
    – small scale
  • DRAMATIC
    – bold, makes a statement, modern, contemporary, sophisticated, sculptural, chunky,
    – large scale
  • ELEGANT CHIC
    – elegant, stylish, high quality, not fussy, timeless, modern
    -medium scale
  • CREATIVE
    – different, quirky, individual, unconventional, unusual
    – any materials, colours and scale
  • REBELLIOUS
    – unconventional, rebellious, noncomformist
    – black or metal with studs, spikes, chains, leather

WHAT IS MY WATCH PERSONALITY?

The watches in the top image are my watches. Yes they are similar in colour and shape.

These watches are coloured, different and quirky and definitely are Creative and different which is part of my Personality Style.

Both these watches are a bracelet – I do not like wearing anything that goes around my wrist as it makes me feel constrained and very uncomfortable so Relaxed is also part of my Personality Style.

I also like to wear ring watches but they are not always easy to find.

My watch reflects my Personality Style.

WHAT IS YOUR WATCH PERSONALITY?

Your Personality Style is usually a combination of at least two styles so your watch maybe a combination of styles.

Example – If your watch is more Classic but with a soft pink band then it would Classic – Feminine.

It is important that what you wear is in harmony with the person that you are and the activity or occasion you are attending.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Wear Fluted Sleeves

How to Wear Fluted Sleeves

 

HOW TO WEAR FLUTED SLEEVES

Sleeves that make a statement are on trend in the shops at the moment. The fluted sleeve is a statement sleeve available in tops, coats and dresses from casual to formal wear.

Let’s look at some styling elements to consider when wearing fluted sleeves.

What are Fluted Sleeves?

  • Fluted sleeves are usually three quarter or long sleeves.
  • These sleeves are narrower at the top and  at a certain point become shaped and fuller.
  • The fullness is greatest at the end of the sleeve.

Tips to ensure fluted sleeves are flattering your shape

  • Fabric – softer fabrics will not create as much volume as firmer fabrics.
  • Seam line – These sleeves sometimes have a seam line where the sleeves change shape. Take notice of where this seam line is positioned on your body (bust, middle, thigh, hips) to ensure it is not creating a widening horizontal line in an area you would prefer not to look larger.
  • Fullness – Where the fullness of the sleeves sits on your body can also have  a widening effect.
  • Length – If the sleeve length falls below the wrist it can give the appearance of the top being too big.

STYLING MY Motto FLUTED SLEEVE TOP

How to wear fluted sleeves

Casual style teamed with jeans.

 

How to style fluted sleeves

Smart casual style.

 

WHAT I DISCOVERED WEARING THE FLUTED SLEEVES….

  • LENGTH
    At first I found the sleeves annoying because I wanted to keep pushing them up as I usually do with long sleeves. These sleeves wouldn’t stay up. It felt different but I am getting used to it.
  • VOLUME
    These sleeves were not too voluminous but they did tend to get in the way when doing certain activities. Be careful when eating.
  • WEARING A JACKET
    I will only wear this top when I know I won’t need to put on a jacket. The sleeves felt somewhat uncomfortable when constrained under the jacket.
  • WILL I BUY ANOTHER FLUTED SLEEVE TOP?
    I won’t be buying another long sleeve one because it didn’t quite give me the comfort level I like in my clothes for the above reasons.
    I found myself fussing with the sleeves somewhat. It didn’t have The Goldilock’s Principle for my personality style –
    it wasn’t ‘just right’ for my no fuss comfort level.I love the colour, style and the way this top integrates into my wardrobe. It is a purchase that will be worn in the coming season but not for going out to dinner.

 

 

 

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